So very, very true. Even if you say nothing, what you do with your children is the same as having this conversation, and produces the same result.
At the same time, for some women motherhood represents the first time they have ever chosen and decided something for themselves on the basis of principles they hold dear; the first time they have ever said to themselves, "I will do this for my child, because this is my sincere belief about what is best for me to do for someone." Though it produces lots of emotional bumps and bruises between individuals, it is also an essential step in turning a girl into a woman with fuller agency. View it as the not-terribly-beautiful steps of deep metamorphosis, as when a caterpillar turns into a butterfly.
i love the weird way they talk. but i have to say i have never felt like this, i have never really bought into the "competition" part of motherhood. i just do what i do and everyone i know does what they do and no one really cares. but people complain about it all the time and i wonder if it is blown out of proportion just a bit or maybe i live in a dream world all my own.
OH wow, I have had two separate conversations that pasted together would come out pretty much like this... I also cannot make mom friends.
ReplyDeletehahaha those are the best EVER! lol
ReplyDeleteWhich mother are you?? :)
ReplyDeleteHahahaha "The internet told me"
ReplyDeleteThat is my new favorite blog!!! And answer Mom's question... :)
ReplyDeleteHaha. Suzanne and Lauren, you two make me laugh.
ReplyDeleteSo very, very true. Even if you say nothing, what you do with your children is the same as having this conversation, and produces the same result.
ReplyDeleteAt the same time, for some women motherhood represents the first time they have ever chosen and decided something for themselves on the basis of principles they hold dear; the first time they have ever said to themselves, "I will do this for my child, because this is my sincere belief about what is best for me to do for someone." Though it produces lots of emotional bumps and bruises between individuals, it is also an essential step in turning a girl into a woman with fuller agency. View it as the not-terribly-beautiful steps of deep metamorphosis, as when a caterpillar turns into a butterfly.
i love the weird way they talk.
ReplyDeletebut i have to say i have never felt like this, i have never really bought into the "competition" part of motherhood. i just do what i do and everyone i know does what they do and no one really cares. but people complain about it all the time and i wonder if it is blown out of proportion just a bit or maybe i live in a dream world all my own.