Baby Names

My mother-in-law posted weird baby names on her Facebook the other day, and made the comment that Tim and I should not read it so we don't get any crazy ideas. Not sure what she thinks are crazy, but it prompted me to think about names we are considering, and then I thought I would share them with our blog readers. I already suspect whatever we pick she won't approve of, as she's voiced her disapproval of Theodore's real name (but whatevs because I love his first name more than anything still and don't regret our choice one bit).

Here are some names of the feminine type that I love. I only wish I was having quadruplet girls or something so I could use them all:

1. Clementine: Means "merciful" in Latin. I first heard this name from "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind" and everyone knows I am only just a little bit obsessed with Kate Winslet ever since her "Titanic" stardom. Hot redhead who is an amazing actor, British, and has a full figure that she is comfortable displaying nude on the big screen... yes please. I still really, really love this name but we are not 100% sold yet, because apparently it is becoming one of the top Hipster baby names of the year. I also don't like the imbalance of having another child with the same beginning initial as me.

2. Matilda: "battle-mighty". Roald Dahl's heroine has always appealed to me. Another name that is increasing in popularity, however.

3. Arwen: Yes, it's a name from Lord of the Rings, but how awesome is the Elfin Queen? I don't know, I haven't read the trilogy, but I've heard she rocks. Maybe I should read Lord of the Rings before the birth and that will help me decide.

4. Caspian: Tim's name of choice. I suggested it for a boy but Tim was sold on it for a girl. I'm still not sure how I feel about it. I think it is too masculine for a girl though.

5. Saffron: Because "Saffy" is just so darn cute. I think it goes well with our firstborn's name, but it doesn't have any kind of cool meaning or character behind it, which is a downer. We could combine it with a great middle name though.

6. Rilo: I've always been a huge Jenny Lewis fan (another hot talented redhead) and I've been singing Rilo Kiley songs to Theodore all week thinking about this one. I think it may be in the running as a middle name...

7. Fern: Gorgeous, simple but maybe too short considering our firstborn's name. I really like it as a middle name.

Choosing a baby name is a daunting task, and we probably haven't devoted enough attention. And Tim is fairly indifferent, which means a lot of the naming responsibility rests solely on my able shoulders. He tells me names he really doesn't like, but he likes most everything i suggest, and is pretty convinced whatever we name her won't matter too much in the long run.

 

The past few days

The past few days were extremely lazy after an event-filled end of last week. We have: bought a new car, had a photo shoot, begun a cycle of deep cleaning the house, Cait got accepted into Indiana, I fixed the dresser in Theo's room, spent hours at the newly-renovated playground at Provo Peaks Elementary, I got an A on a difficult British lit paper and an 89 on a difficult PlSc 110 midterm, decided our plan-of-the-moment for this summer is a very drawn out road trip to South Carolina, had lots of fires in our fire place and pulled our mattress out to sleep in front of them, started listening to The Help on audiobook together, traded off going to Church because Theo was sick, and lazed about the house for hours. The long weekends are nice.

Our trip to Utah Lake

Last Saturday we wanted to go on a low-key outdoor adventure, so we headed off to Utah Lake. The day was really warm for early February, but down by the lake it was pretty cold. Since Cait was afraid of Theo falling in the water, we walked on the Provo River Trail for a while. It was a very nice part of a very nice day. Cait was acting camerawoman, so I'll have to throw in a photo that Theo created of her in the pbs kids app.

This is from back when she was pregnant with Theo, but she's still looking just as hot, if with a bigger belly.

 

New Car

Tu-Duh! We went with the Forester. As always, after months of debate, we went with our first instinct. This also happened when we decided to get married, have kids one and two and to some extent in picking baby names (Cait has a post on that subject which she hasn't published yet). We've (by we I mean mainly Cait with a little help from me) been researching, contemplating and test driving cars for weeks to months now. We were close to buying a Honda CRV and a Hyundai Tucson, but in the end we went with the car with the much better name. Actually, while we liked both of those cars, we did not like them $4500-$6000 more than we liked a beat up Forester. Sure, it might break down and need some repairs, but more than $4500 of repairs is very unlikely. If we do a lot of repairs, we might end up losing down the road if/when we trade in this car, but by then, $4000 hopefully won't seem as monumental as it does now. I don't even want to guess how many months of my past few jobs' salary $4000 is.

The Forester is a 2004 with around 140000 miles on it, which is less on a Forester than it is on a lot of other cars. We went to Utah Family Motors in Pleasant Grove and we highly recommend them. We did most of our other shopping in big dealerships and the lack of stress in the smaller dealer was SUPER nice. We got the price down to $6800 with taxes and everything, and they gave us $5000 for our old Civic, which was way more than any other dealer was offering. Since the Civic was a very kind gift from Cait's parents, we ended up spending (or will end up spending) $1800 dollars on a car we like much better and will work so much better for our growing family than the Civic. We had the $1800 to pay upfront, but we decided to finance it to build up credit. If we make only the minimum payments we will only pay $86 extra, and we figured that will be worth it if we want to buy a house in Wisconsin (which we want to do). I won't gush over details but we love the extra space, decent gas mileage, and hippie street cred.

Special thanks to Cait's brother Devin who helped convince us that buying this car and financing it was a good move. His was a reassuring voice of reason.

I am racist, I am homophobic

Got your attention, right? But here's the deal, it's totally true. I've been thinking a lot about bigotry lately, especially racism, but also sexism and homophobia. In my Political Science class we've been talking about how societal pressure keeps people from accurately self-reporting, i.e. more people say they go to church than really do and more people say they vote than really do. Also, my teacher says, no one responds "yes" to the question "are you a racist?" Also, Jeremy Lin, the basketball player and Harvard grad has brought up the racism discussion because he's a successful (so far) Asian NBA basketball player, which is relatively rare. Then there was that video of the guy interviewing BYU students about Black History Month, which I won't bother linking to. And I'm the only guy in a women's lit class, where the sexism of men is often discussed. And then, the prop 8 discussion keeps coming back and making me question my views on homosexuality.

Each situation has made me question if I am a bigot or not. Of course, I would love to say no, but that just isn't true. Every time I see an Asian male on campus now I want to congratulate him for Jeremy Lin's success, as if he represented the entire Asian community. Even though I've studied a fair amount of feminist literature, I still find myself assigning characteristics, like being overly concerned about appearance or being uninformed about the situation of the world, to one half of the human race that have nothing to do with being a female. And even though I know a lot of black history and have read a decent amount of African-American literature, I still think of it as "Black history" and "African-American Literature" rather than just "history" or "literature." And while I am an ardent supporter of gay rights, seeing two guys kiss still makes me uncomfortable.

What I'm saying is I think most people that consider themselves as "not at all racist" or "not at all bigoted" like I often have, are most likely fooling themselves. There may be some enlightened individuals, like the Dalai Lama (he's probably as close as anyone) who have succeeded in seeing the entire human race as one, but I don't think that is at all common. Some of that is just society. People still separate into distinct communities quite often. I don't blame anyone for seeking community, but as long as people feel that community can only be found in certain groups, separation, be it psychological or physical, between those groups will still occur. I've tried to openly and honestly study the people of the Middle East for four years straight now, and I am still terribly far away from recognizing their culture and beliefs as being as legitimate as my own.

I don't really know, then, if it is realistic to try to be non-racist or non-bigoted. Instead, I feel that for me, at least, it will probably be better to try to recognize my ingrained racism and try to combat it. I'll keep trying to increase my respect for people that I feel are different then me and try to encourage that same respect in others, and ignore people that accuse me or those who think like me of trying to be "politically correct" (although no one has accused me of doing that). It's all about trying to see every other person as equal in inherent worth and value as I do myself. Maybe that is setting my sights too low, but it is certainly, I think, a step in the right direction.

 

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The Baby Shower

By: Tim

We've had a really nice weekend up here with my parents as Cait had her baby shower. It was also a joint wedding shower for our soon-to-be sister-in-law. My sister Devany was the main force in decorating and organizing, but there was plenty of help from my mom and sister Charity.

The matriarch of the party:

Cait seemed satisfied with the second-baby haul

Neither of these cakes got anywhere close to eaten, although they were very good

The happy couple. Josh seems stoked about the cook book.

Monday, February 6, 2012

Our lovely fire place

Posted by Tim

By: Tim

This post came pretty quick after Cait's great post about Independence, so be sure to scroll down and read that.

 One of the things we most love about this house is our fireplace. It was one of the main selling points for us renting here, along with the backyard (this place was noticeably more expensive than any of the other places we've lived).

 While at first we used our fireplace on a few occasions to set a wintry mood, we have since shifted to using our fireplace as a primary source of heat. When before we were paying for wood from the local Smith's we've since found a lot of wood lying around our neighborhood and have been using that to run the fireplace. It doesn't burn as well as storebought wood, but it has been all free. With the wood that we've found and other renters of the house have left here, we've been able to do at least one fire a day for a few hours and often multiple fires in the morning and evening. Since we started doing this at the beginning of January we were able to cut our gas bill in half. It is also satisfying to go from this

To this

To this

 only using my own strength and a hacksaw

 It's like living in Little House on the Prairie, especially since at the moment this photo was taken Cait was inside making bread (she stopped quick to take the photo) and Theo was out back playing in a pile of sand (we sold the sandbox)

 

The last few days:

Church basketball on Thursday night (we lost by 2 points and I sprained a pinky). The final move of the Lees to a new apartment in Orem from Thrusday to Sunday (they had a lot of stuff to move). Working on an Engl 376 paper all weekend. Delicious homemade soup and bread on Saturday, and Chicken and Mashed potatoes on Sunday. And in a random coincidence (we think) our home teacher came over for the first time on Sunday and his wife, not knowing he was our home teacher, asked after church if she could do a photo shoot with us to help build up her portfolio, which we will do on Wednesday. It should be awesome.

Sunday, February 5, 2012

Independence

Posted by Tim

By: Cait 

As I laid down with Theodore tonight to get him to sleep, I couldn't help but get so frustrated over our current society's ideal of having independent children. I sometimes feel like I'm under constant scrutiny from other moms out there (including my own) of the way I am a mother. It must feel terrible to still be nursing your 2.5-yr-old when you are 34 weeks pregnant, to have formed a habit of him not falling asleep alone, to have him still in the bed with you!!! Oh, the horrors. We are told by parenting experts, pediatricians, friends, mommy bloggers that raising children is terrible and hard and we like unto climbing Mt. Everest and why would you ever want to make it harder? We don't want to breastfeed because it ties us down, we let our babies cry in isolation for hours at a time to teach them to sleep independently, we leave them in car seats and bouncers and swings rather than holding them so they don't become too attached to us. We don't want to spoil them, right?

I'll be the first to admit that my child is attached to me. Yes, he is still nursing. Yes, it is still mutually desired, he loves it, and (most days) the thought of not nursing him makes me terribly sad (we stopped for a week and it was really hard for me and him, so we gave up). Yes, we read and sing and lay with him every night until he is asleep. Yes, he crawls into bed with us in the middle of the night and stays there until morning. No, I don't find any of these things to be burdensome or annoying. 90% of the time, I wouldn't have it any other way. I know there were some periods when we weren't getting much sleep, when we tried to force him into a crib and sleeping on his own, when I was not happy with the situation and wanted to change things. 

Looking back, I realize now that most of that unhappiness with our situation was the thought that it would be like that forever. Like when he was 18 months old and still waking up all night to nurse, I thought if I didn't hate it and change it, he would do it forever. Well, two years old rolled around and we broke the habit pretty easily, and while he doesn't sleep "through the night" most nights, he wakes up and goes right back to sleep with very little coaxing. I know now that babies grow up, and whether we work hard to get them to conform to our ideals of how a baby should behave or whether nature takes it course and they grow older and their nervous systems mature and they sleep longer, and I won't be anxious and eager with this next little one but I hope I will be more content to savor the time she is my tiny baby, waking up with me at night and cuddling up next to me all day. I will have a running, jumping, laughing, talking preschooler in front of me to remind me that these moments will not last, and before I know it, she too will no longer need me so completely and desperately. 

And if sometimes I just want to lay on the couch and read a book instead of singing my toddler to sleep, I'll remember tonight when he shoved his face up against mine, whispered "I love you" and gave me a long kiss right smack on the lips. Because no amount of "me time" can beat that.

 

 

Thursday, February 2, 2012

What we did yesterday

Posted by Tim

 Yep, I'm bringing this back. Mainly because I like this new blogging app and also because it was an interesting day, sort of.

Cait had a rare morning of work so Theo stayed with our friends the Lees while I went to classes. In exchange we watched their child while Melissa worked on packing for their ongoing transition to a new home. Their daughter is pretty rambunctious, but makes a really good playmate for Theo, who is always anxious for some social interaction. Cait came home and we all went back to the WIC clinic where she worked and I took Theo in for an appointment. Because we had lended the keys to Cait's brother for an eye appointment and didn't think to take off a bike lock key or house key and had left the other set of keys with the Lees, Theo and I were stuck there until keys came, which was just about the time Cait finished teaching her infant massage class. We went out for dinner at Los Hermanos with Cait's brother Ethan, who now knows that he really needs glasses. Theo was predictably unruly at the restaurant and we were reminded why we don't take him out to eat without the iPad, or ever.

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Extraordinary Popular Delusions and the Madness of Crowds

by Charles MacKay

Entertainment: 3
It dwelt on the same subjects, such as alchemists for way too long, rather than moving through what must have been ample subject matter.
Changed my life: 3.5
It made me think about what madness of crowd I am fol...

On the Road

by Jack Kerouac

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Characters: 3.5
I didn't like Dean at all, but I was int...

Sense and Sensibility

by Jane Austen

Entertaining: 4
Jane Austen makes such boring topics readable with her wit and quick writing style.
Change my life: 3
Eh. I guess it has some good comments on love, but I found little applicable.
Characters: 4 maybe 3
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Stranger in a Strange Land

by Robert A. Heinlein

Characters:3
Plot: 4
Entertainment: 4
Made me think: 4.5

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Jane Eyre

by Charlotte Brontë

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