It's actually been really nice. I say actually because I was really dreading it. I thought it would be super hard. It hasn't been. I've just been a little more diligent in the school work, a little more flexible with time, a little more focus on happiness. I have to say this might be the ideal life for me if I didn't have so much schoolwork. Or maybe it is the ideal life for me just as it is, but a little more appreciated and a little more refined. So far, Ted and I have spent most of our time outdoors, playing while I read school books. Also included is trying to distract him with enough to let me do some homework on the computer, but since he is so obsessed with the allure of the technology embedded in a computer, I often have to put off computer work 'til Cait comes home.
I know there's plenty of people who have something against stay at home fathers, but I wonder if anyone can articulate opposition more coherent than, "It's the way it is supposed to be" or "Men aren't caring enough to be parents full-time" or "It's just weird." Get over it. I'm easily as caring as most women and about even with Cait, if I do say so myself. It might be how we do things for extended periods of time and I'm just fine with that.
I really enjoy being a father. I especially enjoy being a father to Ted. Thanks for being great. I'll try to get my geology homework done now.
you are caring and loving tim. i not only approve but I fully support you being both a father and mother figure you your cute little baby. he wants you to. he told me over facebook the other day.
ReplyDeleteOkay I am starting to worry about the kind of people you guys hang around. Who cares about stay at home dads other than to say that is cool? jon offers every day to be the stay at home parent,i just decline because I like the job too much
ReplyDeletestay at home dads rock! My husbands with my girls all day :) I think its the reason they are so sweet and loving! yes I am also wondering who you guys are hanging around that are so against stay at home dads
ReplyDeleteHey Jake, I'm still a mother even if I'm not home all the time! Oh, and we're not hanging out with anyone who says anything against our choices... I think Tim was just generally saying people might have a problem with it.
ReplyDeleteYou have to own your life choices. People should care more about what their spouse and children think, and less about everyone else's opinion.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you Lauren! Who cares what other people think- as long as you guys are happy (that's what's important), well that's all that matters!
ReplyDeleteStrange that anyone would think that daycare is preferred over having a father at home. If my husband and I want to have kids any time in the near future he is most likely going to have to do what you are doing and stay at home with the baby and go to school at the same time. Because dear old mommy will be working full-time to put food on the table and pay the mortgage! Of course I'd prefer to stay home, but it just isn't in the cards anytime soon. Good job on the flexible parenting!
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